Big girls should cry. Not only are tears a sign of authenticity, but there’s also important health benefits of having a good ol’ sob every now and then.
Crying acts as your body’s release valve for stress, sadness, anxiety and frustration. It is part of your body’s inbuilt healing system. In fact, research shows that while reflex tears (the type that happen when something gets in your eye or your chopping up onions) are 98% water, emotional tears also contain stress hormones which get excreted from the body through crying.
Shedding a few tears is also important because it can have a calming effect by slowing your breathing down and reducing your body’s manganese level, a mineral which can make you feel anxious, nervous, irritable or just plain emotional.
So, how can you make the most of your tears? Use crying to make a positive connection between what once was and what now can be. You can also track your tears and ask yourself what’s really going on under the surface and making you feel this way. As John Bradshaw writes in his bestseller, Homecoming: “All these feelings need to be felt. We need to stomp and storm; to sob and cry; to perspire and tremble.”
And whatever you do, don’t hold your tears in…or you’ll end up looking like Dawson!